A reader of last week’s blog about secrets and sexual abuse responded with a powerful question. And it might just be a question you share with him…
My secret had me convinced that the true me couldn’t be shared. Instead, I believed it was necessary to create an alternate version of me that would be accepted by others.
Most of us want to believe we are good people, right? So what happens when we discover we’ve been hurting others in ways we didn’t realize? Well, shame is often the first feeling to show up. But it doesn’t have to be the last…
What happens when our focus moves so wholeheartedly to the final goal that we lose touch with the micro-moments that make up our journey toward it? It means that our micro-moments stop mattering to us. They become an annoyance instead of the part of our life through which nudges and guidance can come. Isn’t that wild to realize?
What if learning to be present with your anxiety, doubt, and insecurities for seconds at a time has the power to throw open the door that once slammed shut on your dreams? And suddenly possibilities are reborn.
Life understands our imperfect humanness and she generously and repeatedly offers us new moments to notice what happens when we accept the reality of the very second in which we find ourselves. She knows relief and peace await us when we pause our need to try and force this moment to be different than it actually is.
Hi, all you lovely peeps! I was getting ready to send you a New Year’s card and realized I couldn’t possibly send you the one I was planning because, well, it didn’t feel true to me! SO I made you a video instead. 😁
I haven’t been able to stop thinking about this example of a fist and feelings since I first heard it! I bet you’re thinking, “Uh oh!”, but don’t worry. Nobody got punched in the end. 😊
Big feelings don’t always need to be worked out quickly in order to find relief. When the intensity of a feeling grows, it can be helpful to change the channel for a bit. Instead of working harder to find the fixes, change the channel, and do something else entirely. This ends up creating MORE space for the big feelings to come out as the real deal, rather than all wrapped up in a big, confusing reaction.
Do you know what I realized as my serious day came to an end? It would have been ok to give myself permission not to accomplish.