Can you feel how ‘shoulds’ shut you down? They cut you off from letting yourself dream bigger or beyond where you are. They convince you that it’s not ok to have what you want or to follow the trail of nudges guiding you to new aspects of you. They inhibit your connection with your Inner Compass, leaving your focus dependent upon outside expectations for your life.
Here we are in The Year of Endless Unknowns, facing yet more uncertainty, anxiety and fear following the recent death of RBG and the approaching US election. Our thinking minds are forever convinced that they can think their way out of the fear or find ways to make the anxiety go away. Yet this is THE hardest way to find relief from the discomfort that accompanies this anxiety and fear.
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Do you know what I realized as my serious day came to an end? It would have been ok to give myself permission not to accomplish.
As I moved into a ‘Soft I Don’t Know’, I felt relief. My shoulders became lighter. I started laughing again. It became easier to be present without working so hard at it. My mind relaxed even though all the solutions weren’t yet here. My anxiety and sense of responsibility to find all the fixes for my stress dissipated and my list of worries grew shorter despite the fact that uncertainty remained.
This Mother’s Day had me asking a new question. Our ‘fails’ are so easy to identify, but what about our wins? What if the most powerful appreciation actually comes from ourselves when we acknowledge our own wins? And this applies to parents and non-parents alike!
I was recently featured on The Happy and Wealthy Podcast with Alejandra Rojas. She is a fabulous, gifted money and mindset coach who is originally from Columbia but now resides in New Zealand.
Taking it one day at a time doesn’t mean we stop thinking about the future altogether. It means we get to take it in one-day bites instead of the large, future-sized bites that are so overwhelming
The physical ways we’re being asked to be more real are pretty obvious, like roots growing out, moustaches and eyebrows growing in, hair remaining disheveled for days on end. But what about all the other ways we’re being asked to show our realness, too?
There can be a fine line between using social media to help you feel connected and using it to numb out. Because guess what happens when you start using it all day long to numb out? Instead of easing things for you, it compounds your stress, anxiety, and depression.
