Hi, all you lovely peeps! I was getting ready to send you a New Year’s card and realized I couldn’t possibly send you the one I was planning because, well, it didn’t feel true to me! SO I made you a video instead. 😁
I haven’t been able to stop thinking about this example of a fist and feelings since I first heard it! I bet you’re thinking, “Uh oh!”, but don’t worry. Nobody got punched in the end. 😊
Big feelings don’t always need to be worked out quickly in order to find relief. When the intensity of a feeling grows, it can be helpful to change the channel for a bit. Instead of working harder to find the fixes, change the channel, and do something else entirely. This ends up creating MORE space for the big feelings to come out as the real deal, rather than all wrapped up in a big, confusing reaction.
Can you feel how ‘shoulds’ shut you down? They cut you off from letting yourself dream bigger or beyond where you are. They convince you that it’s not ok to have what you want or to follow the trail of nudges guiding you to new aspects of you. They inhibit your connection with your Inner Compass, leaving your focus dependent upon outside expectations for your life.
Here we are in The Year of Endless Unknowns, facing yet more uncertainty, anxiety and fear following the recent death of RBG and the approaching US election. Our thinking minds are forever convinced that they can think their way out of the fear or find ways to make the anxiety go away. Yet this is THE hardest way to find relief from the discomfort that accompanies this anxiety and fear.
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Do you know what I realized as my serious day came to an end? It would have been ok to give myself permission not to accomplish.
As I moved into a ‘Soft I Don’t Know’, I felt relief. My shoulders became lighter. I started laughing again. It became easier to be present without working so hard at it. My mind relaxed even though all the solutions weren’t yet here. My anxiety and sense of responsibility to find all the fixes for my stress dissipated and my list of worries grew shorter despite the fact that uncertainty remained.
This Mother’s Day had me asking a new question. Our ‘fails’ are so easy to identify, but what about our wins? What if the most powerful appreciation actually comes from ourselves when we acknowledge our own wins? And this applies to parents and non-parents alike!
I was recently featured on The Happy and Wealthy Podcast with Alejandra Rojas. She is a fabulous, gifted money and mindset coach who is originally from Columbia but now resides in New Zealand.
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