As I moved into a ‘Soft I Don’t Know’, I felt relief. My shoulders became lighter. I started laughing again. It became easier to be present without working so hard at it. My mind relaxed even though all the solutions weren’t yet here. My anxiety and sense of responsibility to find all the fixes for my stress dissipated and my list of worries grew shorter despite the fact that uncertainty remained.
This Mother’s Day had me asking a new question. Our ‘fails’ are so easy to identify, but what about our wins? What if the most powerful appreciation actually comes from ourselves when we acknowledge our own wins? And this applies to parents and non-parents alike!
I was recently featured on The Happy and Wealthy Podcast with Alejandra Rojas. She is a fabulous, gifted money and mindset coach who is originally from Columbia but now resides in New Zealand.
Taking it one day at a time doesn’t mean we stop thinking about the future altogether. It means we get to take it in one-day bites instead of the large, future-sized bites that are so overwhelming
The physical ways we’re being asked to be more real are pretty obvious, like roots growing out, moustaches and eyebrows growing in, hair remaining disheveled for days on end. But what about all the other ways we’re being asked to show our realness, too?
There can be a fine line between using social media to help you feel connected and using it to numb out. Because guess what happens when you start using it all day long to numb out? Instead of easing things for you, it compounds your stress, anxiety, and depression.
When you are in uncertainty, you’re naturally drawn outside yourself to find the answers. There’s a feeling of desperation that often begins to accompany the unknown. An inner pressure builds, pushing you to hurry up and find a way back to certainty.
It’s hard to hear the wisdom of our inner compass when we’re moving at the speed of light. Yet we don’t need to bring the pace to a fast and complete halt to begin to feel better.
The year after I graduated from college, I was in the early throes of navigating a chronic illness that lasted another 8 years and completely altered the life that I’d known up to that point.
It’s time to let go of working so hard to try to succeed at self care and instead have your self-care happen with more ease.
