Have you ever stopped to notice whether you are actually friends with yourself? I mean, really friends, like through the good times and the bad? It turns out I wasn’t.
ɪ ꜰᴏᴜɴᴅ ᴍʏꜱᴇʟꜰ ɪɴ ᴀ ʀᴜᴛ ᴛʜɪꜱ ᴘᴀꜱᴛ ʏᴇᴀʀ. My mind had subtly narrowed its focus to what I needed to work on whether it was for work or home. And work I did, which CAN be very satisfying.
Years ago, I had a therapist ask me what I liked to do for fun. And you know what? The question stopped me in my tracks because I had no answer! I mean, if she’d asked me what parts of my life I didn’t like or what I was working hard to fix, I could have gone on for days with my answers. But what I liked to do for fun?! I felt clueless.
Ten years ago I would have given anything to know how to create a different experience with the stress of the holiday season because there seemed to be no time for the joy. Today I do know a different way and I want YOU to know, too.
When I came out in my mid-30’s, many of my close friends and family mistakenly thought I was sharing with them that I had a serious terminal illness. Why? Because each time I told another person, I led up to my news with a preamble that made it sound like I had something terrible to share with them.
What happens when you discover that your inner peace and wisdom have been there all along, waiting and eager to connect with you? What if this makes room for you to shift from using a lens of wrongness to a lens of rightness in your life? What if this leads you to the deep, lasting relief you’ve been searching for?
Are you on the treadmill called “Just.Keep.Going.” right now? Do you feel exhausted? Does it feel like your needs and feelings don’t count? Do you frequently find yourself feeling resentful because others around you don’t seem to appreciate all that you’re doing for them and that you are giving up your needs to take care of them? Is there something in your life that you ache to let go of, but it feels impossible to even imagine doing so?
When overwhelm shows up in my life, my energy drops. My tolerance for stress decreases. I feel less connected in my relationships.
Did you know that I frequently curse like a sailor? And I love how it feels! When I was a kid, I only cursed in my head.
I watched myself living my life from the outside and tried like hell to determine whether I was doing ok according to others’ perspectives….