I haven’t been able to stop thinking about this example of a fist and feelings since I first heard it! I bet you’re thinking, “Uh oh!”, but don’t worry. Nobody got punched in the end. 😊
Big feelings don’t always need to be worked out quickly in order to find relief. When the intensity of a feeling grows, it can be helpful to change the channel for a bit. Instead of working harder to find the fixes, change the channel, and do something else entirely. This ends up creating MORE space for the big feelings to come out as the real deal, rather than all wrapped up in a big, confusing reaction.
Can you feel how ‘shoulds’ shut you down? They cut you off from letting yourself dream bigger or beyond where you are. They convince you that it’s not ok to have what you want or to follow the trail of nudges guiding you to new aspects of you. They inhibit your connection with your Inner Compass, leaving your focus dependent upon outside expectations for your life.
Here we are in The Year of Endless Unknowns, facing yet more uncertainty, anxiety and fear following the recent death of RBG and the approaching US election. Our thinking minds are forever convinced that they can think their way out of the fear or find ways to make the anxiety go away. Yet this is THE hardest way to find relief from the discomfort that accompanies this anxiety and fear.
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Do you know what I realized as my serious day came to an end? It would have been ok to give myself permission not to accomplish.
Isn’t this the darn truth?!?! How many times have YOU experienced this? I sure know I have.
Have you ever noticed that when you’re in the unknown, you easily start stressing about what COULD happen? Your thinking mind goes into overdrive, trying to find the answers.
Something changed when I started learning how to be present IN my body instead of just my mind when I was full of resentment. My thinking mind wanted to keep my focus out there on the other person’s behavior. But my body had something else in mind. It was beckoning me back home…
So I ask you, “What creates this space for YOU in your life? Do you already know? O rare you curious about what might create this space that naturally leads you to guidance and relief from anxiety without having to work so hard to get there?”.